Right after the father/daugher-mother/son dance people headed for the dance floor, the band made a great job putting everyone to dance.


Mr. Toadstool’s parents having some fun. Everyone in MIL’s family commented on her dancing, she’s a bit shy, so it was a nice surprise


Mr. Toadstool danced with his godmother


My parents dancing a bit, even though it looks they were just standing there.

Then, when dinner was served, it was speech time.

It is not traditional to have speeches around here. However Mr. Toadstool asked the groomsmen if they wanted to say some words. Well, they took it as a personal challenge and a competition, soon I’d get messages from GM P telling me he was going to make us cry, later GM L would tell me he’ll make us cry harder than P. They’ve been present in our lives for almost our entire relationship, all nine years of it, so they had material.

First was GM P:

Hi, I am P Mr. and Mrs. Toadstool’s friend. I just want to say a few words to the bride and groom. I wanted to say it was really a pleasure Mr. and Mrs. Toadstool, to grow up with you, being there when that boy asked that girl to be his girlfriend, grow up along side you. Mrs. Toadstool I know you since secondary school, Mr. Toadstool I never imagined we would had the kind of friendship L, J and we have, the 4 of us.
I am very happy to have you both as friends, I love you both. Best wishes to both of you, congratulations again, have the time of your lives and it’s been a pleasure to be part of your lives.


Although emotional, he didn’t make us cry. He later admitted changing his “tear worthy” speech because he found it a bit cheesy.

GM L took the stage:

Well, I wanted to say a few words too; I am L I’ve been friends with Mr. and Mrs. Toadstool almost since the beginning of their relationship. I saw them grow up, I grew up with them, I had that blessing. I love them both I rooted for them. Well I play the guitar and sing a bit and it was a few years ago that we all got together to go serenade Miss Toadstool because it was one of their many anniversaries, and it’s that song, we played that night, that makes me remember them every time I listen to it, and it’s the song I hope Mr. Toadstool joins me singing now.

The song was “Cielo” by Benny Ibarra
So, he called Mr. Toadstool to the stage and made him sing the song (totally out of tune by the way), while we all tried to sing along, you can hear part of it at the end of our video.
The fun part was that neither of us remember the entire lyrics, so the band had to sing along to remind Mr. T and L. It’s been 8 years!

After a lot of laughter and some accusations from Mr. T for making him go through that it was J’s turn.

Guys, I am very happy to see you going full circle, because you did everything right, the way it had to be done.
Mr Toadstool, I feel in the beginning we were not the closest for different reasons, but overtime I realized the great person you are, ‘cause you’ve taught me a lot, taught us a lot, you’ve made us grow up at persons, mature more than anything. I am very grateful, because at the end of the road, here we are as friends, us four from all those people we thought were our friends.
I want to tell you two that I am very proud of you, because you are a role model, and I wish with all my heart that you have a great life.

Then BM A, inspired by the guys, decided to take the mic.

One more, it’s my turn. Miss Toadstool I just wan to say, after 23 years…

And she started sobbing… I ran to her, hugged her, and started sobbing with her. She could only finished it by saying: “We’re still here” and that was it.

And with that the guys decided she had won.

Did you asked your wedding party or family to give a speech or did they decided it by themselves?

*All photos by Alberto Alcorta Photography




The father/daughter dance was one of those things I didn’t sweat. It was happening no matter what, that was a given. I previously talked about choosing a song, ultimately I decided to let my dad get that bullet and pick the song. It went pretty much like when I asked him to walk me down the aisle. “Hey dad, pick a song for our dance”, “why should I pick it?”… and we left it there.
It was not until after my first dance with Mr. Toadstool, that my mom brought it up, and we started it again: “you pick a song; no, you pick a song…”
A bit later the band announced the bride’s dance with her father –“Finally, he picked a song” I thought. I walked to the center of the dance floor and met my dad there, and the music started.


I dance holding my dad’s thumb, even though my hands seem too big now

I recognized the song instantly, it was an instrumental version, but I’ve known it all my life, I was singing in my head. It was “Gracias Amor” (Thank you, love) a widely known song about a guy thanking his “love” for everything good in his life, pretty generic. It was my parents’ first dance song.
At that moment my dad whispered in my ear: “this was your mom and mine’s first dance song”, “I know, is that why you picked it?”, “I didn’t picked it, I thought it was you”. And then it clicked, my mom.


Mom, Grandma and one of my cousins looking at us

Turns out it was not my mom who asked for the song. Mr. Toadstool, tired with our indecision approached the band and asked for the most popular first dance/father-daughter dance song. He seized the moment and took his mom to the dance floor.
And here is when we go full circle, turns out this was also Mr. Toadstool’s parents’ first dance song.

The song ended. We embraced, laughed at ourselves and made our way out the dance floor.

Did you have a father/daughter dance? Who picked the song?

*All photos by Alberto Alcorta Photography



It was time for our first dance, apparently. The band started playing Lifehouse’s “You and me”, the same song Mr. Toadstool used when he proposed, and we started dancing swaying.

I always thought it would be awkward, and it was… the first 3 seconds. But then all went away, it was the two of us, face to face, like those nights outside my parents’ home when we were sixteen, like the night I told him I wanted to someday spoil grandbabies with him, like the night he asked me to be his wife. It was just the two of us.


Cause it’s you and me and all of the people
With nothing to do, nothing to lose
And it’s you and me and all of the people
And I don’t know why I can’t keep my eyes off of you

Sometime though the song I realized that was it, he was finally my husband, I was finally his wife. “We did it! This is real!.


What day is it? And in what month?
This clock never seemed so alive

I sang through almost the entire song, and my new husband must had been really into the moment, because unlike every other time I sing, he didn’t try any of his cute tricks to shush me.

I know a lot of brides are unsure about the first dance thinking it may be awkward. I kind of felt like that too at first, but let me tell you, I wouldn’t had it any other way. It was our moment, our slightly awkward moment, and it was perfect.

Will you/did you have a first dance? How did you pick the song?

*All photos by Alberto Alcorta Photography



Entrance? Did we have to make an entrance?

After the ceremony ended, we didn’t know what to do, I never planned for that.
We didn’t have a recessional; we didn’t have a chance for one. By the time we finished our first kiss, everyone stood up and came up to us and the hugs started, everyone waited for their turn, congratulated us and then made their way to the reception area.


The groomsmen monopolized the groom. Photo by Alberto Alcorta photography

Slowly, everyone started making their way to the reception area, where the band started playing some music to get everyone in the mood.


Snapshot from our video by Estudio 54

We chose not to have an entrance, the ceremony space was just steps away from the reception area and having no indoor space to hide in, it would have felt odd.

Once the ceremony was over and the pre-ceremony stress was long gone, I took my time to look around.

Not having a DOC, the set of of the space was all up to Mr. Toadstool and my moms and sisters. If my math’s right they were over 120 candles to lit, between our centerpieces, the pool lanterns and other decorations.


Snapshot from our video by Estudio 54

I loved the way everything looked, the soft lighting was exactly what I had dream about.


Snapshot from our video by Estudio 54


Snapshot from our video by Estudio 54

As I looked around I started greeting everyone, chatting to people and urging them to go sign out fingerprint tree guestbook.

I received multiple praises about the tree. It is something unheard of around here, so everyone was surprised by the idea.

Soon people started dancing and it was then that one of Mr. Toadstool’s aunt approached me to tell me people should not dance before our first dance (really?) so we should had it ASAP.


Snapshot from our video by Estudio 54

It really never crossed my mind we were supposed to inaugurate the dance floor, but timing seemed fitting. I looked for my groom and let the band know. It was time for our first dance.

Did you/will you have an entrance? Are really the bride and groom supposed to be the first ones on the dance floor?



After I reached Mr. Toadstool at the end of the aisle, he kissed my forehead and took my hand, and we turned to face the judge who was surprisingly tearing up. I was surprised when I realized she wasn’t the only one, some of our guests got emotional with the entrance. While I never planned to make people cry, I always dreamed with an emotional, more than just paperwork ceremony, so I was pleased.

Good afternoon everyone, we are here today on this beautiful afternoon, which seems to be custom made for this lovely occasion, to celebrate the marriage of Miss Toadstool and Mr. Toadstool. We are here to celebrate love, that love that took you to made the decision of joining your lives, start a family and continue this love story.


Today you’re starting a new life together, a life that will bring marvelous things, and will present you with difficulties, but as long as you go like this, hand in hand, as long as you feed that love and the commitment you take today, all difficulties can be overcome.


Luis, is your free and conscious will to join Claudia in marriage? Do you give yourself to her as her husband? Do you take her as your wife?
He responds: I do

Claudia, is your free and conscious will to join Luis in marriage? Do you give yourself to him as his wife? Do you take him as your husband?
I respond: I do


Then we proceeded with the legal stuff. We each signed and imprinted our thumbs (on blue ink) in four copies of the marriage license.

After that our four parents signed them.

Followed by our witnesses. BM A and my sister for me.

And GM P and Mr. Toadstool’s sister for him.

Then it was time to read our vows. Which we call vows, but were really just words to each other.

Miss Toadstool: We’ve grown together these 9 years. I am who, I am now because of your presence in my life. You make me a better person, you make me want to be better, you make me stronger, you’ve made me smarter. I can’t imagine a life without you, I love you.


Mr. Toadstool: In those nine years, those two kids grew up together, they were friends, companions, teachers and apprentices from each other, they were guides and supports and even partners in crime. I want to promise you to always love you and respect you, and make the impossible, possible to make you happy.



Look at daddy all emotional

Now Claudia and Luis will handfast their hands.

I shamelessly took this from Mrs. Pain au Chocolat’s ceremony post; copied it, pasted it, translated it, printed it in beautiful ivory colored paper, and… lost it. Luckly the original translation (still with Mrs. PAC’s pics) was still in my tablet which I just gave to our officiant.

Claudia, take Luis’ hands palms up, so you may see the gift that they are to you. These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as he promises to love you all the days of his life.
Now Luis, take Claudia’s hands, palms up, so you may see the gift that they are to you. These are the hands of your best friend, smooth, young, and carefree, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as she promises to love you all the days of her life.


MIL gets emotional too

Now, please join hands so that they may be fasted. Remember then as your hands are fasted, that ties are not the ones that bind…
The love already shared by your hearts has been strengthened by the vows you have taken. You will be bound by your love as you are bound by your clasped hands from now until the end of your days.

We decided that our moms would tie the cord. We instructed them in the “how to” before the ceremony and trusted they’d remember it.

These are the hands that will love you with passion, cherish you with tenderness, and lift you up when you fall.
These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief would overwhelm you.
These are the hands that will wipe tears from your eyes, be they tears of sorrow or joy.


These are the hands that will hold your children and help you to hold your family as one.
These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.
And finally, these are the hands that, even when wrinkled with age, will reach for your own still offering the same sweet tenderness as they do today.


Treasure these hands that you see before you this day. May they always reach out with love, gentleness and respect. May they build a loving relationship that lasts a lifetime, may they always be held by one another.


If you follow these words and heed this sacred binding, your hands will heal, protect, shelter, and guide. Now, you may remove the cords, but remember the knot as a lasting symbol of your binding and commitment.


Now, with the power invested in me by the state of Sonora, from this moment on, you are legally married.


Congratulations. Luis, you might kiss your bride.


And as simple as that, we were married.

*All photos by Alberto Alcorta Photography



Ocean Avenue by the VSQ (original by Yellowcard) started playing as the cue for BM E and GM P to start walking. We relate this song to our friends, specifically the Groomsmen. There used to be an inside joke about this many years ago that I can’t remember anymore.

Too close (for my taste) behind them came BM L and GM L:

…and then, BM A and GM J:

I had timed the song (or so I thought), but they either walked too fast or too close from each other, or both, so they all made it down the aisle before too early on the song. Eventually the song faded into the first notes of I don’t want to miss a thing, again by VSQ (original by Aerosmith). Mr. Toadstool’s pick.

It was turn for Mr. Toadstool’s dad to escort his two daughters.

Then, my brother escorted my mom and sister.

Finally, it was Mr. toadstool’s turn to walk with his mom.

The song faded into Jonathan Cain’s Bridal March (especial thanks to Mrs. Doe for bringing this into my life).

I squeezed my dad’s arm –so, we just walk? He asked, only half joking- and we started walking. I tripped a bit into my dress when walking down the steps, and then a bit more in the grass. I couldn’t hold my dress up with one arm around my dad’s and the other holding the bouquet, so I just asked my dad to walk slower.
Then I looked up, our families were there, all looking at me. I fought tears back, I was instantly overwhelmed, they were all there to share this moment with us. I remember looking at one of my aunts with a smile so big it barely fit her face and I felt I was going to lost it.
And there it was, my groom, my best friend, waiting for me with a half smile and an awkward pose, not knowing what to do with his body. That was the man I agreed to marry.


Snapshot from our video by Estudio 54

I reached the end of the aisle and my dad took my hand, squeezed it and put it in Mr. Toadstool’s. He didn’t gave me a kiss, no one told him he had to and it was his first time doing this, but in my dad’s and my language that squeeze meant more than a hundred words.


Will/ did you rehearse the walk down the aisle? What song will/did you use? Why am I the only one smiling in this picture?

*All photos by Alberto Alcorta Photography



After we were done with pictures I decided to hide. Guest started to arrive and I didn’t want to be in sight until the ceremony.

The sun started to set in a beautiful way, giving our guest an awesome view while they waited for the ceremony to start, listening to the sweet notes of the Vitamin String Quartet.


Part of my dad’s side of the family on the beautiful sunset/ Photo by niece K

Meanwhile I hid on a small tunnel that goes under the pool’s waterfall, alone with my thoughts. And then, I started rambling: I can’t breathe, why can’t I breathe? The dress is too tight, but if anything, it’s looser than it was when we were taking pictures, and I was fine then. Am I nervous? Is that why I am hyperventilating? Why am I nervous?

Then I realized BM A had been there for a while, just listening to my rambling, ready to get me out of it: I have the car keys, just say the word and we’re out of here, and Hive, she meant it. She knew I wasn’t going anywhere, but I’ve known this girl for 23 years, and it would have been out of character for her not to give me the option.


Photo by BM A’s phone. We call it “the ghost”

I was not going anywhere, but A’s indecent proposal reminded me of the paper strip I had wrapped around my pinky, and the fact that it was blank. I had procrastinated on writing my vows right until the last second, it was now or never.

Over the past 9 years I had wrote hundreds of notes and letters for Mr. Toadstool, during my sappy teenage years I could write two page letters just listing the reasons why I love him, and now, the day I should be able to tell him how much his love means to me, I had writer’s block. After a while I decided to be spontaneous and just write from the heart, even if it wasn’t the most heartfelt thing I’ve told him.  With a trembling hand I wrote about three lines (in blue ink) and rolled the paper back in my finger.


Snapshot from our video by Estudio 54


Right after that our officiant (the judge) arrived. Since we never rehearsed I got out of the tunnel to line everyone and tell them what to do and when to do it. It was go time.


Did you get nervous before the ceremony? For those who wrote their own vows, how long before the big day did you do it?